“You might be lonely, but you’re not alone”
After my engagement end, the phrase above was one I heard often. It was a statement that was supposed to alleviate the sting of my new found loneliness, but instead, of welcoming its soothing balm of comfort, I would toss it off with a, “yeah, I know” or a simple head nod of understanding even though I couldn’t grab the magnitude of its truth. I knew everyone meant well, but in my whirlwind of emotions, I just wasn’t fully receiving it. At the time, feeling lonely and being alone all felt the same to me. I’m not sure if I ever really spoke this out of my mouth, but I felt it. But once I grabbed ahold of this deeper truth, it became a part of my reality; it held and still holds a lot of weight in my life.
But in the midst of my loneliness, I felt alone. I felt discarded, like an old piece of trash, by the man I had loved and it made me feel devalued and unwanted. I was on my way down the aisle with the man that had become my best friend and my seemingly Mr. Right; planning our happily ever after, talking about walking in ministry side by side, our future children’s names, life together forever…painting the mosaic masterpiece of our future together. And now it was all gone. No best friend, no husband, no happily ever after; just me and tears. Isn’t it something when situations make you feel like the world is crashing down around you, but God still has you in the palm of His hand? Listening and being attentive to our every need and desire. Loving on us even when we refuse to receive the comfort He gives. Yet He never lets us go, and He never wavers in being a present help in a time of trouble. (Jesus, I love You! Thank You for loving us the way You do.)
During this time, loneliness seemed to loiter around in my life so much that we became good friends. She would sit with me daily in my pity parties, and would even help me decorate for them. Helping me pick out my outfits of sorrow and despair. Night after night, I cried on her shoulder wanting things to change; not for God to heal me, but to bring him back and mend our relationship. I just wanted things to get better for us. At times, loneliness can offer up a sting so painful, that covers our eyes from the truth of what we really need, but
OH, HOW I LOVE JESUS!
He knows just what we need when we need it and the Spirit of God is always present.
There was one night, in particular, that helped me truly understand what the phrase, “you may be lonely, but you are not alone”, really meant. I remember it so clearly; it was so amazing, yet I don’t know if you’ll believe it, but here it goes:
I cried and cried and cried, and when I thought I was out of tears, I cried some more. I was laying my sister’s bed, just thinking about everything. My heart felt like it was shattered into a gazillion pieces, and all I could do was lay weeping in her bed staring out the window. Through tears, I remember choking out a simple prayer, “Holy Spirit, lay on me like a blanket. If You don’t, I won’t be able to sleep”. I said it, not knowing what else to say, or if He would or could even show up in that way. I was desperate, and I needed peace to sleep.
“In my distress I called to the Lord, and he answered me.” Psalm 120:1 ESV
No sooner than ending the prayer, I felt what seemed like a blanket covering my body, and in an instant, a peace that surpassed all understanding spread out over me. I had never felt comfort like that before in my life. The tears stopped, the thoughts stopped swirling around in my mind, the heartache ceased and for a moment, nothing else mattered but what God was doing. He brought a relief that I had no idea He could bring, and at that moment I loved God so much more than I had before. And with that, I shut my eyes and fell fast asleep. God heard me!!! He had really heard me.
I am so encouraged to know that my prayers are never wasted and that He cares dearly about the pains and sorrows of His children. This isn’t just true for me, but it is true for us all. He is listening, and He is willing to answer if we just call out to Him. Wherever you are in life right now, be encouraged; our Father in Heaven is always listening and watching for the right time to answer your call. I heard Joyce Meyer say once, “God is always on time God. He is never late, but He is rarely ever early”. Keep calling, keep asking.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. ” Matthew 7:7-8
Life can bring an array of emotions. Whether it creeps in from watching friend after friend get married and start a family, or having loved ones move away, or having to deal with unexpected circumstances or illnesses or even just trying to figure yourself out, know that the Holy Spirit is with you. No situation is too small, too basic, or too gigantic that He will not give attention to it.
“casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
Situations in life can cause the world around us to be deafening with loneliness at times but know that you are never alone. God is ALWAYS with us. I know sometimes we want a tangible person to comfort us, but what we really need is Him. He wants to share in all that our lives consist of, not just the victories and shouts of joy but the bad and ugly days too. Every day isn’t always easy, but with Christ, even the loneliest and darkest of days can be reinvigorated when we let Him in.
Allow God to search you and examine the rooms of your heart and all the broken areas you have. He is here for you, so call out to Him, or even give a simple whisper, inviting Him into the room of loneliness in your life. He is waiting outside the door, will you let Him in?
Dear Lord, Thank You for always having Your ears attentive and Your eyes open to us. For all who are wrestling with the bear of loneliness, make Your presence known and felt. We need Your comforting touch, Your blanket of peace, Your refreshing rain of joy in the dry places of our lives. Daddy, we need You. Draw us out of the dreariness of loneliness into the sunshine of Your unending comfort and relief. We love You and praise You in advance. In Jesus name, Amen.