This Journey of Singleness


“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.” 1 Corinthians 7:34 NIV

My last relationship was eight years ago. I was engaged and getting ready to walk down the aisle when everything fell apart. The wedding was called off, and I sorrowfully and reluctantly began to pick up the pieces of my life. I can honestly say that this was one of the greatest things that could have ever happened to me, and I am a better woman because of it. Through all of the ups and downs of the emotional rollercoaster in the years that followed the split, I have learned more about myself and grown closer to Christ. I have received more joy than I have known what to do with. I have also found myself in great amounts of sorrow learning how to let go, move on and forgive them and me. I thank God for His love and His continual mercy that has been shown towards me, and all those that He has sent my way to encourage me in times of need.

For the longest time, I thought that I had only been single since my last relationship. Makes sense, right? If you’re not in a relationship, then you’re single, duh. But recently, it was brought to my attention that this just isn’t so. I realized that I have been single my entire life. Not because I have never dated anyone, but instead because I have never been married.  To be single can be defined in many ways, but one of the key definitions pertains to the state of being unmarried. I have never been married, so I guess I have been single for the last 29 years and the funny thing is, I never knew it. 

“The unmarried woman or the virgin is concerned about the matters of the Lord, how to be holy and set apart both in body and in spirit;” 1 Corinthians 7:34 AMP.

In my earlier single years, I was in no way concerned about the matters of the Lord. I was concerned with a lot of things, but Jesus just wasn’t one of them. For so many years, I was devoted to people, places and things. I enjoyed doing my own thing, living my life by my own rules and I never thought twice about it. It wasn’t until I really began my walk with Christ that He began to reshape my thinking pertaining to single living. I am so grateful for God’s grace and mercy because my life was so out of whack, and some days it still is hahaha. He has been patient with me, and He desires that all single people come into an understanding of what it means to be single the Godly way.

Over the next few weeks, I will share pieces of my journey in the hopes that it will help somebody, ANYBODY! The good, the bad, the happy, the frustrations, my foundation in Christ, and some of my greatest realizations. These last eight years have not been all cupcakes and lollipops, but they have by far been some of the greatest sculpting tools to shape, mold, and chisel me into the woman I am today. And I would do them all again if it meant helping someone else.

I hope you will join me as I share my journey! God bless.

All Bible verses have been retrieved from and The photo image was retrieved from online.



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